hard-and-fast
[ hahrd-n-fast, –fahst ]
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adjective
strongly binding; not to be set aside or violated: hard-and-fast rules
I had a wandering thought this morning, as many of mine are, about hard and fast rules. I can ‘t tell you why as that was many hours ago. But the thought stuck.
Perhaps it came from remembering a discussion with someone awhile ago about strict upbringings.
Or perhaps it came from another discussion about firm-minded (I won’t say closed) and open-mindedness.
And then the question came: are people who are firm-minded and have hard and fast rules likely to have a stronger moral compass?
I fall on the softer side of everything. But I admire those others. I used to strive to be more that way, and actually made progress over the years.
But now I just play at it. I mean I am retired. I maintain a schedule of sorts, Things to do, people to see, on a regular basis. If I ever had any hard and fast rules I can’t remember them now.
I like being open-minded about things. To consider other perspectives. I don’t think that makes me wishy-washy, but there is always a danger of that.
Tell me, please:
Are you firm-minded? Have you ever had hard and fast rules?
I wish I had. I think it builds strong character. I never grew up in a home with hard and fast rules. Oh. Wait. Maybe I did. HMM
Well, from here at North of 43, I am off to ponder further.

I am somewhat ‘firm minded’ in regards to certain things….. I like my house clean before I sit down (knowing I ‘have’ to clean is too much pressure). Work is a responsibility (and always came first, unfortunately, I think I should have been more relaxed about that). The ‘have to’s’ were usually pretty strongly planted. I would like to have been less firmly minded about ‘have to’s’ and been more gentler on my expectations/responsibilities.
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What a great answer Colleen! I wish I had been firmer!
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Well, I have moments where I wish I hadn’t been. So it seems you and I balance out the world!
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Gee, together we would’ve been the perfect parent ha ha?
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Right????? 😉
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Ha ha of course!
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Fascinating! I have now read your post, carefully, several times and I’ve really pondered each comment. I hope more people comment. I think it makes for a nicer world if we are all solid and consistent and trying our best.
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Hard and fast rules. Hate em. I was brought up in a convent from 11 to 17. Incredible routine. I thrived. But I always felt very rebellious. When I got married I discovered my husband is a stickler for routine. I still internally baulk but I have to say that when he is away and everything relaxes completely then something inside me longs for someone to push me back into the routine. On the other hand I have no problem sitting down when the house is untidy. The bed unmade or there’s washing up to do. The only thing I’m absolutely a stickler got is a clean bathroom and laundry uptodate.
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That’s brilliant. I imagine your routines in the calm that were very very strict. I applaud your rebellious nature. I’m just catching up on these comments and happy to see you.
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No hard and fast rules for me. At my versed age I just go with the flow and enjoy that
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Vast not versed age.
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I agree!
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Reblogged this on I choose how I will spend the rest of my life.
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