Saturday Contemplation

A sunny Saturday afternoon and while visiting my friend in total care, I was pleased to see that while she looked tired, she was obviously more like her old self. Asking questions and joining in the conversation.

She said she wanted me to help her with something; to produce a memo covering her life and that of her late husband. . But then she was asked by another visiting friend who was organising her finances, why she wanted this. We were told it was for her funeral and for the two distant, hardly known people who held her Powers of Attorney.

Having no relatives apart from a brother in the UK, she had turned to the son of her late husband’s cousin, a man she hardly knew. Keith, the accountant friend, and I agreed that it was odd for somebody who hardly knew her to arrange the funeral. Keith then said it was much more appropriate for me to do so. I am, of course, her closest and longest friend.

I don’t know who was more surprised at the end of the visit. My friend had been told that she probably wouldn’t be here at Christmas and so has been mentally preparing for her death and the necessary funeral, or me who had been ignoring what she had told me about her imminent demise. But now I can’t ignore it any longer.

So next week, I shall contact the director of the funeral home used at her late husband’s funeral and arrange a meeting, with her in attendance, to discuss her requirements. Before that, I will meet with her again to ask all the questions that have jumped into my mind since leaving her.

It seemed like a good idea at the time….

Death smiles at us all; all we can do is smile back.” 
Marcus Aurelius
, Roman emperor from 161 to 180
and a Stoic philosopher. 

JB Heavy hearted in
Wellington NZ
September 10, 2022

22 thoughts on “Saturday Contemplation”

  1. I’m sure this won’t be easy, but what a gift you have given your friend by agreeing to do this. At the end of life, the plans for the future are minimal; putting things in order seems of great importance. You have made that possible. What a relief it must be for her to know the arrangements are in the hands of a dear friend.


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