I am constantly amazed as I grow older, how life can change seemingly with the drop of a pin.
Today I am thinking of a friend who in ten days went from being an alert, vibrant woman, to one requiring constant and total care. How could this be? I ask myself. What had been going on in her body undetected, until suddenly she was no longer able to care for herself.
Ten days before the decision was made, she had been diagnosed with cancer of the lung (not the asthma for which her usual doctor had been treating her). This was a real shock to her. The next day she smashed her car and the next she was hospitalised with breathing problems and then she tested positive for Covid.
My feeling is that this 87-year-old woman said to herself, enough is enough. I can’t carry these burdens on my own any longer. I need help.
While I hate the thought that she can no longer care for herself, I am pleased that she accepted the advice to move into the care facility. She will be safe and cared for there. I will visit her every week (she lives some 45 km away) and will continue to take things to her to make her room more comfortable, but she is suddenly a different person. The friend I have had for 50-plus years is no longer there. She has no signs of dementia but she has lost interest in everything.
How cruel it is to see such a sudden and shocking change in a person.
Feeling less than cheerful here in the antipodes today. But as we know “This too will pass” the feeling not the situation regarding my friend.